So you’ve finally taken your online hookup out in the real world, and the first date went well. If all goes according to your plan tonight, then after dinner you’ll be back at your place for dessert. Let’s say it’s been a while since the last time you had a round in the bedroom… You’d be a little nervous, no? It’s pretty common for men to have stage fright in bed. Not necessarily of the E.D. nature, but of the tricks nature. What if you get up there and forget your signature move? Or forget to do anything besides missionary?
It’s always good to have a back-up plan, but in this case it’s also important to have a solid Plan A, and the best way for that is with a sex to-do list.
This doesn’t mean planning out your night from foreplay to the grand finale. Sex is nothing without spontaneity and being able to feel the moment, but it’s always nice to have a good starting point, and a proper fallback incase things start to go south.
Think of your favorite positions. Why are they so good? Are the intimate? Challenging? Good for you, or good for her? Having these positions in mind before you start will help you relax with the knowledge that you’re not going to have a lul in action.
Even though you haven’t slept with her yet, you can probably judge how she’s going to be in bed with experimenting. Sure maybe the first time isn’t the right time to ask if she wants to try anal, but maybe she would like something a little more exciting than the reverse cowgirl. Depending on where the night takes you, you could be starting off with some innocent kissing on the couch, or you could be giving her a hot oil massage before giving her a night to remember. Just because you buy the oils doesn’t mean you’re going to be pressured to use them. Remember, having these things as a plan is just to help you relax when you’re going into it, not so you have a play-by-play to go off of.
Your search for dating can be long, but it’s times like this that make the payoff worth it. Don’t bother yourself with thoughts of performance anxiety or how you’ll be graded. Instead think about the pleasure you’re both going to be getting from it, and check off your favorites on the list while you have the chance!