So you’ve finally taken your online hookup out in the real world, and the first date went well. If all goes according to your plan tonight, then after dinner you’ll be back at your place for dessert. Let’s say it’s been a while since the last time you had a round in the bedroom… You’d be a little nervous, no? It’s pretty common for men to have stage fright in bed. Not necessarily of the E.D. nature, but of the tricks nature. What if you get up there and forget your signature move? Or forget to do anything besides missionary?

It’s always good to have a back-up plan, but in this case it’s also important to have a solid Plan A, and the best way for that is with a sex to-do list.

This doesn’t mean planning out your night from foreplay to the grand finale. Sex is nothing without spontaneity and being able to feel the moment, but it’s always nice to have a good starting point, and a proper fallback incase things start to go south.

Think of your favorite positions. Why are they so good? Are the intimate? Challenging? Good for you, or good for her? Having these positions in mind before you start will help you relax with the knowledge that you’re not going to have a lul in action.

Even though you haven’t slept with her yet, you can probably judge how she’s going to be in bed with experimenting. Sure maybe the first time isn’t the right time to ask if she wants to try anal, but maybe she would like something a little more exciting than the reverse cowgirl. Depending on where the night takes you, you could be starting off with some innocent kissing on the couch, or you could be giving her a hot oil massage before giving her a night to remember. Just because you buy the oils doesn’t mean you’re going to be pressured to use them. Remember, having these things as a plan is just to help you relax when you’re going into it, not so you have a play-by-play to go off of.

Your search for dating can be long, but it’s times like this that make the payoff worth it. Don’t bother yourself with thoughts of performance anxiety or how you’ll be graded. Instead think about the pleasure you’re both going to be getting from it, and check off your favorites on the list while you have the chance!

Given the amount of dating sites out there that singles can peruse, the higher success statistics a site enjoys the louder it will be sure to boast about them, compete with other sites on T.V. ads and continue to bolster their online presence. But through all the bells and whistles, how do any of us know really what stats translate to mean a better site for our use?

It will be near impossible to challenge or even determine the veracity of claims made by sites. The faster information is disseminated-and it is disseminated nowhere faster than it is online-the more difficult it is to determine if a site truly brings together as many people as it claims to. The first best determination an interested single guy or girl needs is to find a site or sites that seem to allow for as much of their specific needs as possible and log-on or join that portal.

Staying local within whatever site one chooses, is also a good idea; this is why local adult personals work so well. The first best culling device to the large populations we find online is to hinder their size though a local searching. We can always spread the parameters of the dating potentiates we search for, but by starting with a pregnant but contained field we’ll make sure no matter what site we are on we have a pre-censored population to chose from.

So we can join a dating site that firstly caters to our ambitions and preferences and then within that site filter the population down even further by keeping the personals locals. Simply implementing our zip code in the search, a feature almost all single dating sites allow, will keep the people we search for close to home. And in the end we can control the stats, we will not be subject to some random sites own heavily bias and we can affect change in our romantic life on the cusp of possibly having one.

When you log in to your profile for the first time of the day and you see you have 11 new messages, it’s easy to want to respond to them all, but this isn’t your best option.

When you’re ready to answer messages, taking time to throughly go through each one and finding out the senders intent is important. Online dating is tough when you have no options, but it can be even harder when you have too many.

By trying to start conversations with each person that has messaged you, you’re more likely to fail at making an impact on anyone. The hardest part about talking over the internet is that it takes effort to make the conversation personal. When you’re paying more attention to the amount of people you’re messaging instead of on the content of the messages, you lose sight of what it is you’re trying to do in the first place, and that’s start a connection. When you’re conversing with someone, it should be because you see the compatibility with them and are genuinely interested in what they have to say. If you’re trying to talk to too many people at once the intimacy of online dating fades quickly.

But this doesn’t just apply when receiving messages, but with sending them as well. You shouldn’t click on every profile that has their ‘online’ button lit up and start chatting. Really browse through their profiles to see if you want to talk to them in the first place. If you love fishing and the outdoors and her profile expresses her deep love for shopping and high heels, maybe you’re better off finding someone who is more your type. In doing so you get to not only speak with someone you want to be speaking with, but you get to have quality time talking to them, too.

Single ladies are online looking for someone to really talk with and tend to move on fast when they aren’t getting enough attention. Just like dating in the real world, women want someone to make them feel special. Rihanna’s song ‘Only Girl’ was annoyingly overplayed on the radio because girls agreed desperately with the lyrics, they really do want someone to make them feel like they’re the only girl in the world… Something you can’t do when you’re talking to everyone you can click your mouse on.

For a solid personal connection and a meaningful online chat, avoid IMing in large numbers. This is one of the times where less truly does make for more.

It’s no secret that online dating has its ups and downs, but don’t let this discourage you from trying. Dating online is just like dating in the real world– there’s a lot of filtering out the bad to find the good. But how do you know who is worth your time? Here’s some things to keep in mind:

Ask how many relationships she has started online before. If her number is high, chances are she’s a serial dater that bounces from one online hookup to the next. If you’re looking for a more substantial relationship,  try seeking someone who is new to the online world, so you’re both on the same comfort level.

Don’t get high expectations over her profile picture. Remember last week when you went through every picture on Facebook that you were tagged in to find the best one? Chances are she did the same thing. Looks shouldn’t be very important in a relationship, but it does spark the sexual chemistry. When you start talking, ask for a recent picture or see if she’s willing to Skype so you can get the reality of her situation.

Be aware of what she’s really saying about herself. Does she want you to call her on her secret cellphone during her office lunch breaks? Sorry buddy, but she might be married. Avoid situations that may pose a problem for you.

Don’t settle. Go three weeks without getting a single inbox message, only to get a single invitation to meet up Friday night? Don’t go on dates just for the sake of going on dates, that’s how you end up discouraged from the game. Choose your dates carefully based on compatible interests and your attraction to each other.

It’s just as easy to find great single ladies online as it is to find bad ones. So stay online and keep on the search!

There’s not many things in life harder than having to let go of a relationship. But when you’re with someone who is constantly dragging you down, how do you know when to walk away?

When you’re with someone long enough, you start to over look their flaws. It only takes a few seconds to look at the single women around you and realize that no, not everyone leaves the house on a daily basis in sweat pants. But starting the search for someone new is a scary enough thought to make you stay in your rut. We’re here to let you know that there’s better out there waiting for you, and she’s as close as right on the other side of your computer.

Online dating is usually the easiest and most comfortable way to get back into the dating game when you’ve just ended a relationship. It gives you a great selection of single women to browse through, and never has that unwanted pressure of having to go up and say hello.

Sure most people vamp themselves up in their online profile, but once you take a look around the online dating sites, you’ll quickly be able to tell the difference between the princesses and the frogs. It’s easy to see who only wants online hookups, who is looking for someone to date, and who is so much like your ex-girlfriend that  you can’t click the ‘exit browser’ button fast enough.

Trust us- we’re not coming into this on a superficial level, but your other half should never be able to introduce you as her ‘better half’ and mean it. The two people in a relationship should be equals, and you need to make sure that you’re getting all you should out of your partner.

If you’re with someone who makes you squirm more than he makes you smile, then it’s time to trade up. Obama had a great idea with Cash for Clunkers. Only instead of turning your junk car in for money, you’re trading in your junk girlfriend in for a new dime.